Sex is Relative

There are two lots of sexual criteria to be judged, physical and mental - the most ancient is the physical - there was never a mental beyond successfulness in terms of finding food. Human society has created complex demands when finding the correct match or "life partner". More abstract things such as a sense of humour or a specific way of looking at the world (humour is of course one facet of this metacapability) become valuable. Yet still the tug to the physical, the sexual, is strong. Understandable when sex and touch plays such an important part in our relationships, but these properties, those of the head and of the body, are not necessarily linked and can be mutually exclusive. Here lies our dilemma: a person can be sublimely attractive mentally and be a wonderful conversational companion but if the spark of physical attraction is not there this counts for nought. Similarly a stunningly physically attrative person can be an utter dolt incapable of all but the most base and shallow communication. These inconsistencies I feel sure are the cause of much suffering and heartache on all sides in the quest for close companionship.